Males Vs. Females... WHY are we still doing this?!

So I got into a rant/discussion about females and males, feminists and girls like me.

Girls like me I say because I'm not a feminist but I'm not into being unequal with males either.  I start off the rant saying I hate how feminists think all men suck.  I then have to apologise because I am HOPING not all feminists feel this way.

I want to say, I hate how PETA members do things like kill professors conducting animal experiments or freeing lab animals into the wilderness when said animals don't know how to hunt...how could they? they were raised in captivity...

I then have to apologise and say I'm HOPING not all PETA members think this way...

But my new rant has to do with women wanting men to be women.  This also sucks.

I have had soooo many girls complain that he "doesn't talk much" or "he's insensitive" or god forbid he's honest, "doesn't know when to shut up."

I hate female games.  I got dropped into a bucket when those were passed out I think because I get sucked into them too.  I'm too honest and I get yelled at or called names.

I feel like a man sometimes.  Yes you're too fat, god you look ugly in those clothes, I don't care if your grandma gave it to you, it's ugly...  Why are you wearing bright orange?  you look like a cheetoh...

Or ...  No I'm not mad, I just don't know what to say anymore...  You get mad when I say something anyway so why bother saying anything at all?  No I'm not shutting you down.  No I'm not hiding.  I simply have NOTHING to say on the matter (that wont make you angry.)

I'm a girl.. I feel like sh when I get hit with these games... no I DON'T know what the hell you're thinking.  No I can't read your mind simply because I'm a girl.  HOW was I supposed to know to do X behaviour or say X thing? Osmosis?!?  No I didn't get the hint...   SPIT IT OUT ALREADY... What the hell do you want?!?!

So if I'm feeling trapped to my own gender I can imagine how men feel.  They have NO CLUE at all why we girls act the way we do.  Why we talk so much about nothing or why we have to tell THE WHOLE WORLD everything but nothing.  Why we complain about things we have no intention of fixing.  Why girl talk goes on for days.  Why do we need the opinion of 20 other people to make decision?  Why we second guess ourselves so much or why we're so obsessed with insignificant things.  TBH I don't even know half the time... but I know that I do it.

I also know men speak when there's something to say.  They don't tend to say stuff for no reason but we women hate that so we force them to say stuff they don't think is necessary.  Guys do it, I suppose, to keep the peace.

A man isn't insensitive just because he can't tell you that you're gorgeous as you try to sausage your way into an outfit 3 sizes too small!  He shouldn't have to flatter your ego or lie to you... which of course gets him in trouble too because now he lied and that's some horrid sin these days.  Never mind that he did it to make you feel better!

I say let men be men.  They can't be women.  They like to scratch their balls because it feels good.  We have no clue why hurting yourself would feel good but WHATEVER...  We don't go around scratching our boobs, do we?  (the equivalent in orbital objects that isn't the eyes... lol.)  We don't understand why they're so visual that if a hot girl drops by he HAS to look at her.  It doesn't matter that he's just entertaining his visual, he's still with you, isn't he??  Can't a guy dream?  Shoot, we know you've done it with certain celebrities.  Let him have his fun too.  To be fair though, I CAN understand this one... I too like to at hot people.

Maybe we all just need to lighten up.  Accept each other as we are and quit trying to change everyone to fit our own mold... What do you think?  Maybe?

Network Marketing

So on Friday I get a text from a boss saying I don't need to come in on Monday but maybe the week after... this was after informing me on Wednesday...yes, three days before...that my hours were cut from 7 to 3 per day.

A text.  How tacky?  I heard of breakups through text.  I have even heard of divorces...but 'firings' I thought were a new low.  Well, I guess people's characters are just different.  I thought face to face firings were bad but this was an insult...no common decency.

Then again, what do I expect from the same woman who fired the last two people while they were on medical leave?  Right.  I'm like a lovesick puppy dog girl.  But she'll be different with me...   Right.

Needless to say, I was angry.  And from the start of this blog, I guess you could say I'm STILL angry...but not for long.

I will start a new day and a new week with this attitude:  I don't need a boss.  I don't need to waste my time with unappreciative people.  What I need is to keep my own damn money.  I need to keep my time as my own.  The time I spend working should be the time I get paid for and not have to give a boss a cut of my hard earned time and money.

Did you know that most of us only get pennies?  I saw my boss get profit margins of over $1000 a day for weeks.   Did I ever get to see any of that?  Of course not... I got the leftover peanuts after she had her numerous trips elsewhere, her payments for the house and Mercedes...he kids' school stuff and whatever else she did with them profits.

Out of those $5000 PLUS profit margins, my pay wasn't even 10 percent... 

Let's sit on that for a moment... not even TEN percent....




And who was at work every single day without missing ONE day.  Not even for a sick day?  Me.  Who stayed all 7 hours (sometimes more but usually not) because she was so scared of overtime that she never put me for a full 40 hour week? Me.

NOT EVEN TEN PERCENT!!!!

Had I said to her, hey look, you keep paying my salary but I'll only be here less than 10 percent of my time, she would have fired me on the spot.  No doubt.

So I woke up.  She pushed me to wake up.  I need to do something else.  I need to keep my money.  I need to make time my own.  If I'm helping someone make a 5000 plus profit, it's going to be just ME keeping it.

In comes network marketing...oh yes, that scary word... 

I'm not scared.  I know a kid less than 30 years of age making $2000 a week on his BAD week...and almost $25,000 a week on a good one.  He's not a brain surgeon, he's not this unattainable figure.  He's just a kid, like you and me.  A super nice kid too!  He's retired from his job, by the way...  sounds like a sweet deal to me!

I know another kid who's making $1000 a week PART TIME because he's a high school kid and has to go to school.  He doesn't even speak English or know how to write well.  I now know three other kids in Utah who own their own homes outright...  That's right, OUTRIGHT.  No mortgage to pay. Ever.  They're not even 25 yet!!!

The cat's got a point...I got this money thing all wrong.  I'm getting a fifth of what he's getting a week and I'm doing as much work as he but I'm giving away the rest of my money to this unappreciative boss.  NO MORE.

I'm thankful for the boss who showed me the light.  She had it right all along.  Work for yourself.  What I WON'T do is pay peanuts to my helpers and gauge my customers.  That's how she gets so much profit.  Not me.  I have higher ethics and morals than this Christian woman.  I believe people should get service and be charged accordingly, not gauged.  And I believe in equal pay for equal work.

You don't have to agree with me but here I go.  I'm going to make some calls now and I'm going to see just how this kid makes so much.  See you on the flip side!

If you want to join me on this ride, give me a holler but if not, that's OK too.  I'm going to see how the other side lives either way but if you're at all curious, hit me up at cnith2@gmail.com

DARE TO DREAM!!

Just like my book, In Dreams She Slept (available in Kindle) that I just published because of this wake up call, I'm going to dream out loud.

DIY nails. Yup, I'm *that* frugal!

So... I've been taking to doing my own nails.  Why?  Because I see no point in paying someone to do what I can do on my own.  The tips, OK I get it, those were hard but now my nails have grown out and to be honest, the "fill" they do is not that hard.  I can't waste 20 or more bucks on something that simple.  I rather waste it on something useful or treating myself to stuff more worthy... pleasurable... you know...?

You tube to the rescue!  A few tips here and there and I'm set to go! :)

I buy something called PRO IQ from like Rite Aid.  It works OK I guess... but why is the acrylic so rubbery!?!?  Weird...  Well, it worked for the purpose...

I've since moved on to Beauty Secrets who I'm told is OK but ASP is better.  We'll see...

I'm doing alright with the Beauty Secrets so far and as frugal as I am, you know I'm going to spend the whole thing before I move on to ASP. 

I should mention, I'm already kind of ambidextrous as far as putting nail polish on both hands.  Since filling is pretty much nail polish addition, although a bit thicker and patting not stroking, it does help that I already have the skill.

Lesson to learn... if you can't do both hands, learn how to do that before you attempt this.  Another lesson to learn is not to forget steps... I ended up with a "lift" from the a) sucky PRO IQ stuff but also because I forgot to do primer... also, it helps to use the dehydrador stuff...and the cuticle oil.  It takes me practically all day to do the nails but that's because I'm still learning.  Once I get it down it should take me the same as the salon or less. :)

Til next time!!  But remember, it's not spring yet... no planting! ;D